We are living through a highly stressful, unsettling, anxiety-inducing time. Under these conditions, it is not easy to present the best versions of ourselves to our partners.
So, here are seven relationship tips for couples during Covid-19
Bring back date night
Social distancing guidelines may have frustrated your go-to date night plans. But you can still carve out some time to connect at home. As a couple’s therapist, I suggest setting aside at least an hour per week for just the two of you.
Do not judge your partner as harshly as you usually would
Be gentle with each other when tensions inevitably arise. I suggest not rushing to judge your relationship's quality right now and continue to find ways to communicate and be vulnerable about difficult feelings. Have compassion around the fact that these are difficult times.
Prioritize your alone time
Finding time may be a challenge these days. I suggest being intentional about giving each other space.
Practice selfcare together
You may have self-care rituals that you prefer to practice solo, but also try to find some nourishing activities that you can do as a couple: meditating together in the morning, walking outside after lunch, or having coffee/tea or sharing a few things you are grateful for before bed.
Create a COVID routine that works for both of you
When the world around us is chaotic, maintaining a consistent daily routine or structure around our day can make us feel more grounded. This will help reduce anxiety, especially if we have kids at home.
Stop keeping score on who’s doing more around the house
Couples’ systems for distributing household duties have been turned upside down during the pandemic. Don't get stressed about making sure everything’s divided evenly. Do as you can, be grateful for your partner’s contribution and accept that there’s likely too much to do.
Do not try to resolve established conflicts right now
This probably isn’t the best time to resolve long-standing relationship problems that existed before the pandemic. If things have gotten argumentative between you, psychotherapy or online therapy can help you better navigate your relationship. Don’t hesitate to get professional help.
If there are specific or smaller complaints, you need to discuss them, bring them up but stay focused on the issue. Avoid utilizing criticism or generalizations to attack your partner’s character.